I remember a time when I used to get somewhat annoyed when people asked me, “Do you have children?” The question is not anything like the unforbidden rule of asking a woman her age. Heck, I never hesitate when answering THAT particular question, because I often love the surprise (and sometimes debate, lol) on the person’s face when I tell them that I am in my late 40’s (and still fine)! I started to dig a bit deeper and ask myself, “Why am I annoyed at such a simple question?” I can admit today that I felt judged! Yeah, maybe sometimes it was all in my head. T here were other times when the judgement and shade thrown my way was too real. I mean, show me a 40+ year old Black woman who does not have at least one kid, right? Well, I had not one but none! I realize now that I created my own mental pressure cooker of measuring myself up against women who appeared to be able to do it all! Yep, I believe Mothers are the backbone of this world! Mothers, they somehow, som
Here, I share my feelings and thoughts about being a 40+, single, unmarried, Black professional, childfree woman. I am part of a unique and steadily increasing; yet, often forgotten club! I will share my truth with a touch of humor! I am wonderfully made, living my best childfree life - and I am sharing this life with you!